West Meets East

An orthopedic "marriage" moment

The man in the long white coat, looked right at my husband and then at me. He nodded his head, "Sure." and my husband stood up and walked across the room. The first time he had taken a single step in over 6 weeks. Although 6 weeks time was sufficient for a bone to heal, something about seeing him come into the doctor's office using crutches and then walk across the room with only a slight limp seemed as if I had just witnessed a miracle.

He walked across the room and then he turned and looked at me. "Feels good. . ." as his eyes met mine he trailed off. I start thinking back over the x rays and the decisions and the surgery and the last 6 weeks of exhaustion. I have slipped deep into thought as he and Dr. Yin discussed physical therapy and how long before he can run and range of motion and a host of other related topics. I over hear, "You know, I couldn't have made it through all of this without her." and then I teared up. I hear him telling the doctor this kind of thing and I'm blushing. Embarrassed. Embarrassed not so much because of the words he is saying but by how untrue I know them to be.

The depth of the heart can not lie.

But I have also been married long enough to this amazing man to know that he does not lie. He sincerely feels this way and I am baffled and grateful that he is my husband. Thankful that he is my friend. Thankful that he chooses to remember the acts of kindness over the last 6 weeks and not the tears of exhaustion or moments of frustration. Then I realize that maybe I did witness a "real" miracle today. But it wasn't the broken bone being made whole but it was the extension of grace and a redeeming moment in this whole orthopedic ordeal. The Lord is redeeming the pain, the exhaustion and this trial by re-calcifying a part of our relationship and marriage.

Re calcification is the restoration of calcium to decalcified tissues (as in bones or blood). In rebuilding a bone, the body deposits calcium in the site of the fracture or break and this calcium deposit is what heals the bone, it fills in the gaps. The calcium and new bone is soft at first but over time it gets harder and harder, making the bone (some say) stronger than what it was before the fracture. We have not been having "marriage problems" but doesn't every marriage have "problems" from time to time? We are approaching our 11th year wedding anniversary and the trials that the last year has held have been greater than I would have planned but I see redemption when I see how it has grown patience and love and tenderness in us towards one another. It has re-grown love and affection where we didn't even know it was lacking. The recalcifying of our love, our grace towards one another and our forgiveness of each others faults and flaws has got to be just a few of the redeeming things to come out of our last year.
Who knew when all of this began that our surgical bills would pay for a metal plate, 7 screws, 6 x rays and an orthopedic marriage moment?

So, as we WALKED out of the ortho's office yesterday, holding hands and laughing at how bizarre it felt to walk out after so many days and weeks of not walking. . . I had to stop and thank God for his grace in all of this!

1 comment:

  1. Oh Tammy! What a beautiful way to describe your story- yours and Josh's. I know it has been so hard this past year, for various reasons. I can't even imagine! Love you guys and miss you so much! Yes, every marriage goes through its hard times. So glad that God is with us through it, and that in Him we have hope!